I probably blogged about this (or
something closely related) before, but I still think it is worth another entry for the record.
So on the way home earlier after watching the July 4th fireworks across town, my housemate (an American dude) asked me about my long term plans with the company.
I told him I have no idea. Nobody in this Globalization 3.0 age would talk about long term employment with a single company. But I am
fairly certain I will be
moving about in different cities/places, even if I am to remain in/with the same company.
For the most recent quarter of my life, I have moved from Singapore to live/work/study in 5 cities (US and Japan), ranging anywhere from 3 months to 4 years. I believe this is the main reason for my difficulty in getting hitched. I am unsettled. I am not even sure I will sink my roots down in one place. Short of getting a
homemaker, it will be unfair for her to adjust her career to my operational needs. And I have yet to talk about (having) kids.
There is already a precedent in my family. The most successful (career wise) of my mum's siblings is also the one who had his first and only child in his 40s. While he was earning two Masters degrees simultaneously from MIT and Harvard, his wife was pursuing her MFA at UCL in London. Then followed by their separate job postings in the US, UK, Malaysia and China. Only decided to move back to Singapore when they were in their early 40s
and finally settle down.
My aunt also served as the example to my granny's warnings about dating/marrying RGS girls.
Too focused on their careers vs. familial needs. Heh.
I look at those peers of mine who are married. ~80% are civil servants. What does that tell you? Then again maybe they just so happened to tie the knot.